Pamela Virgil

Tell us about yourself. 

I met my husband in the military while on tour in the U.S. Army in Germany.  We dated for eight months before getting married and will celebrate our 30th anniversary this year.  We have six children, two grandkids and a son-in-law.  I grew up living with my father, mother, two sister and my brother.  We always enjoyed hearing my father tell us the story of how he fell in love with my mother at first sight and knew that she was going to be his wife.  Unfortunatley, my parents marriage ended in divorce after six separations.  My sister and I eventually went to live with my dad, who unbeknownst to us was living with his girlfriend at a different residence. So for an entire year we were responsible for managing the household withouth parental supervision.  However, my father returned home in my senior year and attempted to be our “dad”,  and I chose to leave and live on my own with a roommate. When I share my story with others, they automatically  assumed  I lived an uncensored lifestyle, but that could not be further from the truth.  Although I was living life with the freedom of an adult, because of my relationship with God I chose to honor Him with my choices.  There were no wild parties, hanging out late, or any other activities that my parents would not have approved of if I was living with them.

What is the one thing that you recently discovered about yourself?

During a recent message Pastor Jenkins taught on bitterness and unforgiveness. It was during his teaching that I realized that I harbored bitterness and was dealing with the consquences that are associated with having it in your life.  A lot of the things I do and how I feel are connected with the bitterness I harbor.  I know that in order for me to “shine”, I have to allow God to deal with me in this area.

Has there ever been a time when your relationship with God was in a dark place?

As a child I gave my life to Christ at nine years old.  Being connected to the church was a way of life for me.  I was involved in every aspect of the church growing up. I was always taught the importance of having Christ in my life.  However, there was a time when  I was not as connected to God as I knew I should be, but I drifted away as a young adult.  It was during those times that I realized how weak I was without God, I just couldn’t do it by myself.  My walk with God is essential and I honor Him today because He found me in the darkness and led me back to Him.

What is the best part of Remade by Grace for you?

Every year I make new friends through connections that are only available at Remade by Grace.  This year I am excited to hear the amazing speakers and receive insight that I can apply to my life.  I am also looking forward to being postured to allow God to heal and dispel the darkness that comes with my bitterness